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Masturbation Tip: Masturbate with your Partner

It’s still May which means I’m back with another masturbation tip. Today’s tip is to masturbate with your partner. If you’re looking for a way to have a more intimate relationship, including your partner in your masturbation session might do that. I love including my partner in the things that I love doing. It gives him a chance to see me in another light, a sexier light.

When we’re alone masturbating, we let go and we’re in a vulnerable state. Think about the last time you were vulnerable and you let your partner in. I bet it felt so good to just be yourself. You even probably ended up being much closer emotionally. Masturbating together can do the same.

When you’re alone, it’s easier to be your sexiest self. No one is there to judge you and tell you you’re doing something wrong. So it’s important you do this with someone you really trust. You’re allowing someone to be in your vulnerable space and they should be deserving of it.

TIPS:

– Bring this topic up with your partner. Let them know you want to try something new and how you think it will bring you guys closer.

– Put on something sexy to watch together. Make this part fun by looking for the perfect porn to watch together. You never want your partner to feel like what you’re watching is one sided. This can hurt their feelings and do the opposite of what you are trying to achieve.

– Once you start to feel sexy, start to masturbate. If this is your first time, it will feel a little awkward. Don’t worry, just breathe. At first, try to pretend your partner isn’t there to get comfortable with the fact someone else is in the room with you.

– As you start to get comfortable and you’re both masturbating in your own worlds, often glance at each other. Admire how sexy your partner looks. Be so grateful that your partner is able to be their sexiest self with you.

– Use this opportunity to be aware of how your partner pleasures themselves. Take note so that you can do this to them the next time you have sex. I love it whenever I can feel the same feelings when I masturbate during sex. Masturbating feels so good sometimes that it feels like no one else can make you feel the same way.

Masturbating with your partner is a great way to get closer with each other sexually. It opens the doors to other sexual discoveries. It helps you build a stronger relationship, discover new ways to pleasure each other, and it also makes for an intense foreplay. As you watch your partner feel sexier and sexier, the more you’ll want to hop on them and hump their brains out.

The next time you want to add spice to the bedroom, try to bring this up with your partner. You’ll be surprised with the feelings that come up when you bring someone into your space.

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How to introduce Anal Play with your straight boyfriend

I think we’re getting somewhere with butt play with women. I see a lot more posts and articles talking abut anal sex. Which yes!! I love anal sex (when done right) and I want EVERY BODY to enjoy it. That includes straight men, too!

As a former dominatrix, I saw plenty of men, particularly straight men getting pegged and loving it! Pegging for those of you who don’t know, is usually a “woman to man” act when a woman wears a strap-on with a dildo and penetrates a man anally.

After this experience, It made me wonder how many other straight men would enjoy it if they just gave it a chance.

Pegging seems like an advanced sport especially if your man has never tried any type of butt play in the past. So it’s best to start slow.

Unfortunately, men have this idea that any type of butt play is considered “gay.” What makes someone gay is not the type of sex they’re having but with who they’re having it with. If you’re doing things with your partner who is a woman, then it’s just you having sex with your woman. Once men can get through that in their head then it’s time for the convincing and steps to get him to try it.

(I’ll be using anal sex and anal play interchangeably)

Remember, just like anal play, you can’t force it. Be patient and it will come!

How to Approach

  • Approaching your man to do anal play can go in all types of directions. He can be super down to try it, he could be offended by it, or he could be curious and want to hear more. Whatever the response, it’s important that you make him feel comfortable enough to be vulnerable with you. Let him know that he’s in a safe space and that whatever you guys do in the bedroom is your business.
  • When approaching the topic to your man, come at it with an enthusiastic attitude. Let him know how much it would turn you on if you were to play with his booty hole. He might even want to try it just by how turned on you are.
  • Let him know all of the facts about anal play. Let him know that his booty hole (inside and around) is filled with tons of nerve endings that can be pleasurable.

First time trying anal play

After you’ve convinced him to bring anal play to the bedroom, it’s time to get to work.

  • If it’s his first time, most likely telling him to bend over will feel uncomfortable for him. Instead, have him lay on his back. Start with a sensual blowjob then make your way down to his booty hole with your tongue. While you lick, try to jerk his dick off at the same time. When you’re down there, try to give his booty hole a bad make out session. Think about that time when you made out with someone and all they did was poke their tongue in your mouth like a dagger. Do that along with long lick strokes. This will get him used to the sensation around his booty hole.
  • If he likes the licking, great! Now, you can add some fingers. Before inserting your fingers in his booty hole, make sure your hands are clean. You’ll also want to make sure to have lots of lube near by. Think about your first time doing anal play, treat him the way you’d like to be treated.
  • For anyone’s first time, it can be nerve wrecking and that is the opposite of how you want him to feel.You want him to be relaxed as possible so that when you try to get your fingers in there it’s less painful. Do some breathing exercises together beforehand to get him relaxed.

Whether you’re the one playing with a booty hole or you’re the one whos booty hole is being played with, adding anal play is a great way for you to add some kink in the bedroom if you’re looking to spice things up.Think of exploring anal play with your partner as something that’s part of exploring your sexuality. You’re on a journey to figuring out what feels good to you and what turns you on. If this doesn’t work for you then you’ve just discovered something new which is the whole point of trying! So, go for it!

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Masturbation Tip: Breathe in and out

MASTURBATION TIP: BREATHE IN AND OUT!

It’s Masturbation Month!! I hope you guys have been masturbating so much that your clit is begging you to stop. In honor of Masturbation Month, I am here with a tip to make your masturbation session more intense!

If you know me, I love to masturbate and I’m a huge advocate for it.

Masturbating was there for me when I was dickless and horny.

It gave me an opportunity to learn more about my body and what feels good to me. While there are times when I just want to bust a nut and fall asleep, there are other times when I have time to have a full masturbation session. When I say full masturbation session, I mean, I have time to dim the lights, play music in the background, and practice my breathing.

Which brings me to my tip for masturbating.

Bring your breathing practice from yoga to your masturbation sessions.

In yoga, they tell you to breathe in for a number of counts and breathe out for a number of counts. It’s all about taking control of your breaths which leads you to getting into a deeper stretch as well as being present.

I feel whenever I’m masturbating, I always have a goal to cum which makes me do the most like breathing extra hard when it’s not necessary. I find myself doing this during sex too and I noticed that it takes me away from being present. Instead of being in the moment and feeling all the sensations, I’m busy trying to put on a performance.

After practicing my breathing during masturbating, I’ve been having stronger and more orgasmic ORGASMS (can I say that?) with myself and with my partner!

The next time you have time to explore your body, try to masturbate to feel all the sensations instead of masturbating to cum.

What to do:

– Before masturbating, make sure you’re turned on. Going straight to your pussy will be uncomfortable. Put on a playlist to get you in the mood while also helping your breathing by breathing to the beat.

– Once you feel you’re turned on, start to breathe in for 4 slow counts through your nose. 1…2…3…4… Then breathe out for 4 slow counts out through your mouth, 1…2…3…4…

– When you feel like you’ve got a good rhythm going on start to touch your body sensually. Make sure to notice how each touch feels on your body. If you’re using a toy, try to start out at the lowest setting and work your way up.

– Make sure to breathe in and out with every touch. Take your time with this. There is no rush. You’ll start to notice yourself becoming more present which will make each touch feel more intense.

– Continue until satisfied. 😉

As soon as you master this with yourself, you can bring your partner in which can lead to tantric sex. “Tantric sex is a slow, meditative form of sex where the end goal is not orgasm but enjoying the sexual journey and sensations of the body. It aims to move sexual energy throughout the body for healing, transformation, and enlightenment.” .

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New Toy Alert: The Sacred Squirter

The Sacred Squirter by Yoni Pleasure Palace

The Sacred Squirter! It came all the way from Australia and it’s finally here! I first saw this on Instagram after following Rosie Rees, the founder of Yoni Pleasure Palace. I started following her because of her sexy energy and because I thought she was hot. No shame. This eventually led me to follow her business, Yoni Pleasure Palace.

I saw this toy on her Instagram and immediately fell in love with it. I loved that it looked like a tentacle and I loved the name of it even more, “The Sacred Squirter.” I figured if I was going to go on a Squirting adventure, this was going to help with that. I mean it has the word squirt in it, so it HAS to work right?!

The box included a brochure, a thank you card, and of course the Sacred Squirter with a cute little YONI pouch to store it in.

According to its website, it’s made out of the highest quality , hand blow, annealed, borosilicate glass. It’s also temperature responsive which means you can play with it cold or warm.

I love the color of it! It looks so sexy and luxurious. It’s even pretty enough to leave it on your bedside on display. But if you’re clumsy like me, I’d avoid high surfaces to prevent it from shattering.

I haven’t used a glass dildo before so this should be interesting.

I’ve never squirted although my partner says I have. Even if I did, it’s not how I want my squirting experience to be like. When I think of squirting, I think of a pipe burst with water going all over the place. I know not everyone is capable of squirting like that but, I am determined I can. Hopefully with the help of this toy I can achieve that dream.

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Sex Tip Tuesday: Work on yourself

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Sex Tip Tuesday! I’m going to try to make this a consistent thing so it’s something you look forward to. So please, hold me accountable and ask me for my tits, I mean TIPS if you don’t see it on Tuesday.

Tip: If you’re looking to have better sex , start with working on yourself.

Having good sex doesn’t start with blaming anyone in your life. I don’t care if it’s because your partner’s head game sucks, they’re wearing the wrong sized condom, they can’t last in bed. Blaming them for those things won’t help you have better sex with them.

It actually starts with yourself and being honest with yourself. It’s easier to blame someone for our sufferings instead of confronting them. The next time you’re going through something and it’s interfering with your sex life, really dive into why you’re feeling like that.

What does being honest with yourself look like?

– Admitting to yourself you’re insecure about something.

When we’re insecure, it’s easy for us to project it on to our partners which causes us to become bitter. How can you identify this insecurity and over come it?

– Admitting to yourself that you have never had an orgasm and you don’t know what that feels like.

It’s completely normal for a woman to feel like they’ve never orgasmed. About 4 out of 10 Americans say they’ve never had an orgasm. This has to do with so many factors from sexual history, lack of knowledge about the body, your day, medications, etc. So admitting this to yourself and to your partner will help you create a space that will open it to learning and discovering what feels good for you together. Dj Envy’s wife admitted to him that she was faking her orgasms for 10 years! I’m happy to say she is cumming now.

– What does love look like? What does it feel like?

Sometimes being in a relationship, we feel we know what love is but we still feel like something is off. Dive into why you feel like that. Defining your values in a relationship will help you come up with the answers.

– Admitting you’re afraid of the response if you speak up and say something.

Being honest with yourself by telling yourself that you’re afraid of speaking up is the first step. Why are you afraid? Tell yourself, if your partner doesn’t respond with respect and empathy then maybe he’s not the one for you. Could that be the reason why you’re not having the best sex?

– Telling yourself a position doesn’t feel good and then telling your partner.

When you’re honest with yourself, you can start to identify what feels good to you and what doesn’t. Once you can identify that, you can say something. It doesn’t have to ruin the mood. Remember you can always ask what you want in bed in a sexy way.

As you can see, being honest with yourself will help you identify why you’re really suffering. It’s not easy being vulnerable but it’s worth it. Knowing yourself is key to great sex and even a great life. If you know yourself it’s hard for anyone to break you.

“Stand for something or die in the morning”- Kendrick Lamar.

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