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O is for Open Wide

This week I’m participating in mollysdailykiss.com Sinful Sunday Challenge. “Sinful Sunday is ALL about the image. It’s a time and a place to share those sexy/erotic pictures that you have taken.” The challenge is to take a photo based off the erotic theme given. This week she continues the challenge with a letter prompt, which is The Letter O.

When I saw this, I was more than excited! I’m always up for a sexy challenge especially if it involves erotic and pictures. Ever since I’ve had a phone with a camera, I’ve always loved taking pictures of myself. Yes, it’s gotten me into trouble at times but the way I think about it is, anything before I was 18 didn’t count because that would just be wrong.

I love taking photos of myself that make me look like a pornstar.

So fast forward to my adult days, I love taking photos of myself that make me look like a pornstar. I think that is something I would’ve done in another life if I didn’t have a gigantic filipino family. I would hate for my Uncle’s to come up to me and ask me how I loved doing the ” Big Black Cock in my Asshole” movie. Yeah, that’s not the conversations I want to have at baby showers.

I just love how freeing pornstars are! Urgh, how jealous and turned on I am when I watch porn and I see a hot young Asian girl with a similar looking like pussy as mine. I can’t help but think that I could’ve taken that dick better than her.

I look at pornstars like performers and artists. I admire them. To me, they’re like singers, dancers, acrobats, and anything else that requires a special skill. I think a lot of people look down at pornstars because they don’t have a typical office job. They’re naked and having sex for the world to see and that makes people uncomfortable.

But if you really think about it, pornstars are not your average people. They require real skills. For example, they need to be able to take dick and different objects in their pussy, their booty hole, mouth or anything that has a crease. They also need to be able to take dick for a long period of time which I already know some of ya’ll can’t take dick for more than 10 minutes. And don’t get me wrong, that is not to shame you but to make you realize pornstars are another breed and you cannot compare yourself to them.

Let your man watch porn! It’s like us women watching romantic movies all day. We fantasize what’s in front of us and try to imagine how we can make it come to life. I digress!

I say this all to say if you can’t be a pornstar, you can always look like one!

So because I can’t be a pornstar, every time I get a chance to look and act like one, I take it. I think thats my boyfriends favorite thing about me. Teehee. My favorite look on a pornstar is the face they make when their mouth is open dripping with spit waiting for cum. It’s so sexy and submissive. It looks like their eyes are begging for cum to be all over their face. It’s right after being skull fucked and their makeup is smeared from all the pounding. One lash is on her forehead and the other is barely hanging on. To me, its the look of a successful fuck session. So in honor of the Letter O challenge, here is “Open Wide.”

So in honor of the Letter O: Here is “Open Wide”

Join the challenge with me! What’s your letter O?

Stay Sexy & Curious!

Instagram: @sexishh

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Reasons Why You’re Not Achieving your Sex Goals

It’s 2023 people! 2020 sucked, 2021 sucked even more, 2022 almost sucked but it seems like at the last minute we figured out what we had to do to make 2023 the best year!

I know, I know, I’m tired of hearing that, too. ” This year is going to be the best year!”

What year have you actually said that and actually meant it? I find that every year my goals pile up on top on each other and they ever get fulfilled.

This year, I refuse to be that person who says that and doesn’t see any change.

This year, I want to achieve more of my sex goals. Last year, my main focus was figuring out how to handle my emotions. I was experiencing new things so fast all at once that I found myself feeling overwhelmed most of the time. It was hard to feel sexy in the moments when I had to take responsibility for actions that I never knew were a problem until now. My emotions put a block on my sexual journey.

I’m happy to say that I’ve learned plenty of new tools to handle my emotions and I think, actually I know, I’m ready to get back on my sexual journey. I’m ready to have orgasms, I’m ready to be turned in ways I didn’t think I could turn and most of all, I’m ready to get to back to me!

I believe we can all make 2023 our sexy year. If we stay mindful and practice good habits everyday we will get there! Here are some of the reasons that were hindering me from accomplishing my goals. I know everyone is different but I hope you can find something useful on this list.

Also, don’t be too hard on yourself when you figure out the “why”. Just be grateful you found out sooner than later.

What are your sex goals for 2023? Comment below.

Reasons Why You Are Not Achieving Your Sex Goals

– Your goals are unrealistic

Some people don’t ever reach their goals because their goals are too vague and unrealistic. It’s easy to say you want to be the best at giving head or you want a million dollars but, how do you get there? I think we get so caught up with the end result that we forget that we actually have to do the work to get there.

Try breaking your goals into smaller and more specific goals.

The smaller goals is the work to get you to that bigger picture. You’ll find that achieving these smaller goals are much more rewarding than trying to do it without any plan.

– Negative self-talk

Could you be listening to the negative talk in your head? It’s easy to let negative self-talk ramble in your head to the point you stop going after what you want. Next time you find yourself questioning your abilities, write it down!

You need to be aware when you do it to be able to stop.

As soon as you catch yourself, identify it and tell yourself the opposite of what it’s saying.

For example, while I was sick in my room I had a lot of time to think. I found myself questioning my abilities and doubting myself if I could even run a successful sex blog. I was being hard on myself for not working on Sexish while I WAS SICK. That was my brain trying to make me give up over one little thing. I recognized it and said NOPE. I had to tell myself I just started being consistent and I can’t stop now! I have nothing to lose and everything to gain at this point. At that moment I felt powerful.

– Your focus is all over the place

A mantra that I live by is “Repetition is Mastery.” It means that you have to repeat something

for you to become good at it. Without it, you won’t see yourself improve. The reason why I found myself not achieving some of my goals was because I wasn’t focused on one thing. I was doing too many tasks at once which made it hard for me to see any accomplishments. I saw more unfinished work than finished work.

So try focusing on one thing and see where that takes you.

– Why are You doing It?

Why did you come up with this goal in the first place? Business books and self-help books always go back to the same thing when you’re lost, YOU! It’s easy to get lost when there are so many things trying to influence everyone these days. Go back to your roots and forget what everyone else is doing.

Go back to the reason why YOU came up with this goal in the first place.

-Too much control

It could be that you are trying to control the outcome. I find that when I could point out all of the things that can go wrong, I already put too much expectations on it. Especially when it comes to sex. Sex should be freeing not controlling! More on this on another post…

Have goals and be open to whatever comes your way.

– Fear of Failure

You’re so afraid to fail that you don’t even try. I’m sorry to tell you but you’re going to fail at one point. Life is about failing and then learning from it. If you don’t fail, how do you know what your best looks like? Just try!! No one is looking, I promise you!

-Excuses

Excuses , excuses, excuses. You probably aren’t achieving your goals because you’re making all these excuses! To me, excuses means not taking responsibility. I do not want to hear that you do not have time while there are people out here working 2 jobs and working on their dream job at the same time. If you really want to achieve your goals you will make time for it!

“He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.”

Benjamin Franklin

I hope this list was enlightening! I really believe that we can do whatever we put our minds to. You just really need to WANT!

My 2023 sex goals is coming soon…

Stay Sexy & Curious!

Instagram: @Sexishh

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An Unsexy Start to the New Year but at least I have a New Sex Toy to look forward to

Happy New Year! We made it! I hope everyone had a great New Year. I spent the last week of the year in bed thanks to the FLU (Still recovering). I think this might be my last year I go back for the Holidays in New York. It seems like every time we visit, we end up getting sick or with COVID. And not to sound like a COVID hater, but why are people still talking about COVID?

The entire time I was sick, all I heard was Covid this, Covid that, get tested for Covid. I get you can still get COVID but, it seems like everyone has forgotten about the other sicknesses. Like the cold, the flu, your regular itchy throat. Everyone just calm down! I’ve been sick before and I’m going to get through it just like every other times. It’s also going to suck like the other times but that is life! Now, give me some orange juice, water, and Nyquil. Then, leave me alone.

My fun week in New York ended up terribly lonely and unsexy. I couldn’t meet up with my best friend, I couldn’t see my grandparents, I couldn’t see my little cousins and worst of all, I couldn’t workout! I haven’t worked out in a week!!! My butt is literally deflating in front of me! SIGH!! I literally stayed in bed weak as fuck attempting to be productive.

Note to self: when you’re sick, just be sick. You’re not going to be a better person if you do something while you are sick.

That’s something I want to work on in 2023. Just letting things be and sitting with it. That goes with my feelings, silence, and the uncomfortable. I just want to experience it all.

My boyfriend was sick too so we ended up celebrating New Years Eve eating chicken noodle soup and watching Zootopia. Also, was it just in Chicago or did it feel like no one had the energy to celebrate the end of the year? I didn’t see any New Year decorations anywhere. Oh and don’t get me started on the local news celebration out here. It was whack whack whack! No one was jumping or looked excited. It was no NYC ball drop lol. I’m biased!

But I don’t even think New Years in NYC was as good as every other year. I heard there was even an alcohol band on CNN. That’s dumb! Who chooses to celebrate NYE sober? I was sick so I had an excuse.

Because we had no New Year decorations, I made some. Do not judge me! I was working with what I had which was cardboard boxes from presents and gift bags. I’m proud of what I came up considering I was sick.

Okay let me not be such a negative Nancy. Besides having the Flu, I had a wonderful Christmas! I love being around family and watching everyone open their presents. I especially enjoyed opening my presents :P. I can’t believe as an adult I still get presents- really good ones too.

Also in sex news, I had some great welcome home sex back. I thought since I was sick I wouldn’t be able to cum but wow, it’s always the times you least expect it when you cum your hardest. It didn’t matter that I had no taste or no smell, I still came and it was soo good. My boyfriend was so proud of me. The wasn’t going to stop me from getting dick, nope!

While I want to keep this post short since I am still sick, I want to give you something to look forward to. New Sex Toy Alert!!

 

It’s Cato from VIVE

I’ve never used a rabbit toy before so I’m interested if this actually works. For some reason I’ve always been skeptical using a rabbit vibrator. Something about the bunny ears don’t look like they would do the job. But I’m so ready to find out!

I hope everyone had a safe holiday. It’s 2023, let’s get it!! This is the year!! I can just feel it!

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Stay Sexy & Curious!

Instagram: @Sexishh

Disclaimer: Many of the links provided are affiliate links which means that I may get commission if you purchase something using the link on my website. (Thank you in advance) This is at no cost to you at all. I only share things that I believe would help one in their sexual journey. All my opinions and advice are my own. I am not a doctor or therapist so if you have any real life concerning questions, I am not the one.

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12 Days of Me!

I saw this idea on girlyjuice.net and thought, what a perfect way to highlight the year and show off your best selfies!

I officially have lived in Chicago for a year now and wow, it has not been an easy transition. There was a lot of crying, fighting with myself, fighting with my boyfriend, comparing Chicago to New York, and a lot of complaining.

Even though it was difficult, the times where I pulled through and learned something on the other side of it made it all worth it. I have learned so much about myself and my capabilities in such a short and fast amount of time. I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

With that being said, I’ve come to find reverence in everything everywhere I go. I no longer try to compare but acknowledge the difference in things and recognize what makes it so special. There is someone out there who has a love for something that you don’t like and I think it’s worth trying to figure out the beauty in that.

I’ve learned that complaining and overthinking gets you nowhere. So, just like this post, I do not want to overthink and just post my damn pics aha. 12 DAYS OF SELFIES LETS DO THIS!

January 2022.

In my dickey that I crocheted. Not meant to be worn like this but you know me, I have to make everything sexy.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

February 2022.

My boyfriend and I went to Mexico for our 1 year anniversary. WOW! I can’t believe we’ve been together for a year already. It seems like it was just yesterday we met each other on the streets of LA.

Shout out to Secrets of Akumal! Our favorite resort. We love this place so much that we were here just a couple of months before this.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

March 2022

This was the time I started getting into AIR fitness which is using aerial silks. This exercise is both challenging and humbling. Even the most fit person would find this exercise to be difficult.

Dang, look how tiny I was… Definitely my new body goal. This reminds me to always be grateful for the body I have at the moment because I remember even during this time I was complaining about being too skinny..

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

April 2022

If there is something long, you bet my mouth is going to be at the end of it. It was April here in Chicago and it was still freezing like it was February.

Shoutout to the Boo whos always supporting my hoe poses.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

May 2022

Before coming to Chicago, I was burning shrimp, making dry mac and cheese but look at me now. I’m cheffing it up in the kitchen almost every night.

I’m also proud to say that I’ve learned to make filipino food which comes in handy whenever I’m feeling homesick.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

June 2022

I was on my crochet game this year. I crocheted this set and a couple of my summer outfits which I was really proud of.

Again, urgh that tan!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Top: Crocheted by me @MADEBYTEETEE on instagram

July 2022

My birthday month! This year we went to Puerto Rico for my birthday. It was everything I asked for when my bf asked me to describe where I wanted to go. I said I want to be surrounded by sexy people, a place with history, I want to dance and a beach.

Puerto Rico was all of that! Besides passing out from dehydration and taking too much edibles, it was one of the best trips we’ve taken so far.

The butts out there?! I think majority of the trip was butt watching. It was amazing.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

August 2022

My birthday continued with a trip to Cancun Mexico with my Madre. It was hot as shit out but it was my type of weather. I don’t mind dipping into the ocean to cool down.

This trip forced me to use all of the tools that I’ve learned about life thus far. This was when I realized I was putting pressure on people to be a certain way thinking they had to know everything that I learned. That is not how it works. People are on their own journey and will discover things on their own.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

September 2022

Clearly it was still warm in Chicago in September. During this time I put out a crochet pattern for this top. I got 6 sales from this pattern which to me, was a huge success 😛

Look at my sexy man urgh!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

October 2022

October was fun! I went back home to celebrate Halloween with the kids. This costume was last minute but I think I killed it! I was having a hard time trying to pose because I was like what the fuck does a Zebra do or how do they even sound?

If we had to go based off the sounds I was making it was between a donkey and horse.

 

 

 

 

 

 

November 2022

November was fun! It was my booboo’s birthday month so it was all about him. We danced, we laughed and we even roller skated in our tiny apartment.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

December 2022

Oddly my next favorite month after July because I hate the cold. But I’m a sucker for Holiday festivities like baking, putting up the Christmas tree, going shopping, and Christmas movies!

I’m not too excited for the New Year because it’s just a continuation of what I’m doing now. But I guess since what I’m doing now is going to show results in the next year, I guess that’s something to look forward to.

I hope everyone has the best holidays! Stay safe and wear a condom. You don’t want to get anything you can’t give back in 2021… like herpes…. herpes is for life.

 

Stay Sexy & Curious!

Instagram: @Sexishh

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Last Minute Christmas Gift Ideas

I can not believe Christmas is literally next week! I don’t even feel like doing any “end of the year” things because the last time I celebrated the end of the year, we ended up in a pandemic for two year. TWO FREAKING YEARS. No, thank you. I’ll just wait and see what happens.

However, the end of the year is separate from Christmas, okay? I love Christmas! Christmas is one of my favorite holidays and it’s not because I still make a Christmas list to send out to my family so I can get everything that I want… But it’s because I love watching people open their presents. Especially the kids! I will forever know their pain when they unwrap a present and it’s a box with clothes in it. *throws to the side* NEXT!

While Christmas is not all about gift giving, it’s a great gesture to show your appreciation for them. Even if it’s as small as a stocking stuffer. It’s the thought that matters and I’m learning that saying is really true. So for you late Christmas shoppers who need last minute gift ideas to give to your sexy person, either your partner, friend, mother, sister, your neighbor, I gotchu! Hurry now, as there are plenty of Holiday sale going on!

Last Minute Christmas Gift ideas

PASTEASE RED BOWS $12

Photos from Sedure

These are the perfect stocking stuffers to end Christmas night in a jolly way. These pasties are wrinkle resistant, waterproof and hypoallergenic. These are also perfect for any occasion if you decide not to use it for Christmas. Think, birthday, Valentines day, anniversary or any day where your present is enough. And let’s face it, that’s everyday. Use my code SEXISH to get 10% off off.

Photo from Sedure

 

Le Wand Vibrating Necklace $100

Every time I pass through this at a store or online, I always tell myself I’m going to get this. Hopefully I’ll get this as a gift this year 😉 . I’m putting that out there. I love love this. It’s a vibrating necklace but look how discreet it is! No one will ever know what your bathroom break really means. This comes in four colors, silver, rose gold, black and gold. Getting jewelry is already hard enough to get for a woman but this is so simple that it will look amazing on anyone!

 

 

 

TENGA Spinner Beads $27

Photo from Hollywood Hustler

Tenga products like the eggs or this one is great for a stocking stuffer for your boyfriend. If he’s not big on toys or didn’t even know there were toys for men, he’ll be excited to try this one.

I just saw the idea of putting the eggs as an ornament for your tree and I love that!!

 

 

 

 

 

Photo from Lovehoney

Bejeweled Butt Plug $26.99

Okay rule of thumb, anything with a shine or sparkle is a yes for a Christmas gift! Butt plugs are not only great stocking stuffers but also a great way to break it to your partner that you want to try some butt stuff. Who doesn’t want something shiny in their bootyhole?! I know I do!!!

These also come in tons of colors so you can pick one that is perfect for your partner or you.

 

 

 

Photo from Lovehoney

Lovehoney X We-Vibe Sweet Seduction Couple’s Sex Toy Gift Set $120

I love gift sets! You get so much for what you pay for. I especially love gifts that are couple friendly so that you can explore each other sexually on another level. So if you’re having a hard time finding something, just look for presents where both of you can have fun.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sexy Ashtray $40

Sexy presents don’t always mean a sex toy has to be involved. Sexy can even show itself in home items. If your partner is a smoker, something like an ashtray that is out of the ordinary would be the perfect gift!

Photo from The Standard

 

 

 

Body Shaped Candles $22

If you can support a small business this Christmas, you definitely should! Etsy has so many items that you would never find in stores made by real creatives. Like this Dalmatian candle shaped like a body. How sexy? A great gift for women who are into aesthetics.

Photo from GremBathLab

 

 

 

 

 

Uberrime Rosae Rose Silicone Grinding Toy

If the person you are buying for is a beginner in their masturbation journey, try giving them a grinding toy. This is great for people who are intimidated by vibrators, suction toys, and dildos. They’re so pretty and delicate looking.

If the person you know isn’t into delicate and pretty, there are also options out there with dragon tongues!

Photo from Spectrum Boutique

 

 

 

 

Seat of the Soul by Gary Zukav

Photo from Amazon

You know whats more sexy than being physically sexy? Being mentally and emotionally stable! When I say stable, I mean, someone who is present and aware of their emotions. No one is “stable” but there is a difference between people who react and respond. This book right here is my bible to life! I recommend this book to everyone because it changed my outlook on life.

I am more happy and more aware of what is love and what is fear.

I think sharing this new perspective in life is a gift itself. So, if not a book for your person, gift yourself this. You deserve this too!

 

Photo from Sedure

Gift Card

Gift cards may not be the most thoughtful gift but if this is last minute, a gift card will do. Put the gift card in their stocking, in their Christmas Card, or even hang it on the tree to make it look cute!

Some places even have digital gift cards so maybe you can even surprise them with an email. Make sure to let them know that it is not a spam and that yes, you are giving them a gift card to buy sex toys.

 

 

List:

– anything from LELO

– Glass dildo

– Satisfyer Pro 2

– Inya the Rose

– Mini Magic Wand

– Double ended dildo

– Lingerie from Kiki De Montparnasse

– Edible body paint

– Butt plug

I hope everyone has the best holidays! Let me know down in the comments or in my DMs what gifts you ended up buying for your sexy person!

Stay Sexy & Curious

Instagram: @sexishh

Disclaimer: Many of the links provided are affiliate links which means that I may get commission if you purchase something using the link on my website. (Thank you in advance) This is at no cost to you at all. I only share things that I believe would help one in their sexual journey. All my opinions and advice are my own. I am not a doctor or therapist so if you have any real life concerning questions, I am not the one.