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Random Facts About the Founder

Random facts about the Sexish founder
Founder of Sexish, Theresa Maloco
Founder of Sexish

With Sexish, I want everyone reading to learn something new about themselves. Whether that be they’re curious to try something new, they relate to something, or they discover something they don’t like. Whatever it is, I want you to know that you’re not alone on your sexual journey and you are normal for feeling whatever you are feeling.

I love talking about my sexuality because I feel the more we talk about our experiences the closer we are to having good sex. To make you feel more comfortable with sharing things with me and to your friends, here are random sexual and non sexual things about me!

Remember this is a judge-free zone!

  1. I love to rollerblade.
  2. I enjoy degrading sex. Call me your little cum slut.
  3. I love male attention unless I’m in a room where I’m alone then I don’t feel safe.
  4. I like using sex toys instead of my hands to masturbate.
  5. I only date older men. I love learning from their experiences. It feels like I’m cheating life.
  6. I make out with the hottest girl closet to me when I’m drunk.
  7. I recently stopped smoking weed because it was worsening my anxiety.
  8. I love doing stand-up comedy because I get to talk about sex and be the pervert I am.
  9. I’m a switch. I can be dominant and submissive but I prefer to be submissive.
  10. I like to do my makeup like a pornstar before filming anything in bed.
  11. I prefer to get a brazillian wax instead of shaving. WAX over Sugaring all day. No one tells you how painful sugaring is.
  12. I love romantic comedy movies. I live my life like one.
  13. Fuckbuddy over hookups.
  14. I crochet sexy outfits. Ask me to crochet you something.
  15. I want to be the face of sex for the Asian community.
  16. I have a sexy ass boyfriend who loves how sexy I am.
  17. My dream is to have people come to me when they have questions about sex.
  18. I went to fashion school.
  19. I love self-help books.
  20. I’m so hard on myself when it comes to my work. It’s terrible and I’m working on it.
  21. Therapy has taught me so much about myself and is the reason for my growth.
  22. I love big booties. I can be on Instagram all day scrolling through big butts. I’ve been obsessed with booties since I was in 8th grade.
  23. I love watching scary movies only if I’m watching it with someone else. I can’t watch them alone.
  24. I’m currently trying to make blogging a full-time job.
  25. I sniff my boyfriends hands/body to show how much I love him.
  26. I want to be the sexiest person but I hide it sometimes because I’m scared of what my family will say. I need to remember that this is my story, not theirs.
  27. Google is my GOD. I use it to answer all my questions. “Will I die because a jar of coconut oil fell on my head?”
  28. I’m such a Millennial. I have no patience. I feel I should be rewarded immediately when I do something. I know that’s not how life works. I have to trust the journey.
  29. The word “fart” is funny to me.
  30. I’m working on being more positive. I realized I learned some toxic behaviors from my family.
  31. I love Hamilton the musical, actually I love all musicals! I will jam to it out loud in the car. I don’t care who sees it.
  32. I’ve dated people in the film industry.
  33. I’m normally a social butterfly but after covid I have social anxiety. I’m working on it ASAP.
  34. I was a Dominatrix.
  35. I rather have 1-2 closest friends than a large group of friends.
  36. Every time I pass by a mirror I have to check myself out.
  37. I love working out and taking care of my body. My body is my temple.
  38. I love to eat. I can eat as much at my 6’4 boyfriend.
  39. I eat rice with every meal.
  40. I love sex toys.
  41. I love to masturbate.
  42. I’m proud to be filipino.
  43. I love the beach.
  44. I can’t wait to be rich and wear the craziest outfits.
  45. I love having a partner with the same sexual level as me.
  46. I love older men.
  47. I fart in bed sometimes.
  48. I was a wrestler in highschool.
  49. I carry around lactaid pills because I’m lactose intolerant but I love dairy!
  50. I love whiskey.

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I Wish I knew This Before Exploring My Sexuality

What I wish I knew before exploring my sexuality: (Some but not all)

– I am worth it. I am enough.

– When you’re young it’s easy for older people to take advantage of your naivety.

– Boundaries.

– Sex Toys.

– You can have amazing sex with someone you love.

I started exploring my sexuality after my relationship with someone for 3 years. In those 3 years, the sex was pretty regular. We were young just pumping around. After that, I became dick crazy. I loved the new attention I was getting from men. I knew I was cute, but I didn’t know I was hot like that.

I remember the first time someone asked for my number at the club. He was on the lower level and I was above him. He handed me his phone and I put my number in with no hesitation. No hello or no “what’s your name?”. I just gave him my number. Don’t worry, nothing happened. I learned shortly after that you probably should learn someone’s name before giving out your number.

At the time, I didn’t feel bad because I was living in the moment. I was living my younger 20s like how one should. I was young and reckless doing it for the stories. When the fun ended which was right around COVID, I had so much time to myself to think about who I was and what I’ve been doing these past couple of years. It didn’t take long for the anxiety to kick in because I didn’t know who I was.

Most of my insecurities started when I began to explore my sexuality. Which is normal when you’re put into new situations and you don’t know how to handle it. Exploring your sexuality is a journey and not all journey’s are easy. We have to go through shit to learn. It’s impossible to have learned what I learned without going through it first.

With that being said, while there are things you have to experience, there are also things in life you should always know and remember when you are going through your sexual journey.

I think often times as women we can get carried away with good dick or our first love that we forget to prioritize ourselves. Below are things I wish someone had reminded me along my journey so that I wouldn’t be stuck with the feelings of insecurity.

I AM WORTH IT. I AM ENOUGH.

Before going on my sexual journey, I wish I had always thought I was enough. There were so many times when I blamed myself for a guy not wanting to go on a date with me or be my boyfriend. I would think there was something wrong with me.

Now, I know it’s not my fault and it never was. In therapy we learn there is “my” business, the other person’s business and then the universe’s business. When you are going into someone else’s business, you no longer have control. People’s actions are always a reflection of themselves, not of you. If he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, then he’s going through his own internal issues. You can’t control how someone feels. It’s up to you to know your own worth and if you want to put up with it.

WHEN YOU’RE YOUNG, IT’S EASY FOR OLDER PEOPLE TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU.

I have always been into older men. It started with 3 years older to 8 years older to 19 years older and then 30 years older. I don’t care what anyone says, I genuinely liked all the men I was with. It had nothing to do with financial reasons. I think most of the men I was with knew this about me and took advantage of it.

Since I was naive, I believed the things that were being told to me. I even lowered my boundaries because I figured they knew more than me. It wasn’t until I started to blame myself for letting the shit happen to me that I realized I’m not the one to blame.

It’s not my fault I didn’t know any better because of my age. I haven’t lived as long as them to know what they were doing to me. I was dealing with older men who’s been through life. Hell, he was even alive during Martin Luther King. It’s hard to believe that they didn’t know what they were doing.

So when dealing with older men or anyone, be aware of how they treat you. If you think something is off and unusual it’s most likely that they’re stepping over your boundaries and you need to check with yourself. Don’t let the oldies mess with you!!!

BOUNDARIES

That leads me to boundaries. When people think of boundaries they think of it as some rigid thing. It’s all or nothing. It doesn’t have to be. Sometimes you don’t even know you need to set boundaries until something bothers you. When I was hoeing around (having sex with consent and it was my choice), there were times when I felt like I had to be a people pleaser. It’s going back to not thinking I was enough therefore I felt like I had to compensate for it. I remember there were times people said things to me that I didn’t like and even agreed with them because I was afraid they wouldn’t like me anymore. FUCK THAT.

You must have boundaries in all your relationships even the situationships! I don’t care if you guys are only fucking on the weekends, there must be boundaries set up. When you don’t set boundaries for yourself you’ll end up feeling regretful and it’s not a great feeling. I wish I had set boundaries for myself because then I probably wouldn’t have stayed in the toxic relationships for so long.

SEX TOYS

The time I spent worrying about people who didn’t care about me, I should’ve been fucking myself. I should’ve been using all that money to commute for dick on sex toys. I wish I knew to discover my body by myself first before trying to do it with people who didn’t respect me. You know what sex toys can’t do that humans do all the time? Disrespect you- unless the battery dies on you before you cum.

YOU CAN HAVE SEX WITH SOMEONE YOU LOVE

When I was young and reckless, I didn’t think being in a relationship was possible for me. I even started to get comfortable with the idea that I was going to be single for life. I figured it can’t be too bad. I’ll just get a bunch of dogs who love me and I’ll live happily ever after.

Young me always believed that the best dick came from strangers who didn’t want to get to know you. I told you I was naive! Oh young Theresa, if only you knew there was gonna be a hot sexy man who respects and who loves you for you in LA.

I wish I knew I was capable of falling in love and having good sex at the same time. If anything, it is much better when you are in love! There’s no better feeling than doing the things you love with someone who is just obsessed with you. It removes the anxiety of constantly overthinking about what he might be thinking about you.

I hope when you’re on you sex journey you think about these things. You are worth it and don’t let anyone make you feel you aren’t. You are beautiful, you are a human, you have goals, you have dreams, you have a personality. Don’t let ANYONE take that away from you.

What do you wish you knew before exploring your sexuality?

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What I’ve Done for the Dick

Sometimes all we need is a GOOD dick down to get our mood right and we don’t necessarily need to be in a relationship to get this. This is what a Fuck- Buddy is for.

We’ve all been there where we had a fuck-buddy and we thought we had feelings for them and then realized it was just their dick mesmerizing us. Let’s face it, It’s hard to come across good, hot, nasty sex especially if we’re not in a relationship. When you’re looking for one, it seems like all hook ups suck. It’s an endless pit of men who don’t understand your body. It’s frustrating and can result in you abusing your vibrator.

It’s not until you’ve hit the jackpot and you’ve found someone who doesn’t want to be in a relationship and just wants to fuck the shit out of you. It’s hard to let go of good dick when you’ve got it which is why we’ll do the craziest things for it. Remember back in 2017 when celebrities and people were making raps about what they’d do for the dick?

Check out my rap on What I’ve Done For the Dick

I was actually very proud of my rap that I came up with.

“What have I done for the Dick?

I drove 10 miles for the Dick,

I skip red lights for the Dick,

get caught for the Dick,

Po po, I’m just trying to get some Dickkkk”

I have the craziest stories from when I was dick crazy. I was wasting money for the dick, I was leaving functions early for the dick, I was calling out of work for the dick. I almost have done it all. While I can sit here and regret all of the things I’ve done, I just laugh. I laugh about how young and carefree I was to live in those moments. Sometimes I even wish I can bring some of those crazy traits back. I miss crazy Theresa.

They were some of my favorite and worst moments of my life. It’s probably why I’m in therapy now. With that being said, it was part of my life and I learned so much from it. I’ve learned to raise my standards and respect myself more. I would never go through the things I’ve gone through in the past again. I also have the best boyfriend now in which I can do all the nasty things with… But, I digress.

Here are three moments during my HOE life when I thought “Wow, I’m really here just for dick. “

I used a used towel for the Dick

During my hoe days, I used to hook up with starving artists which meant that they were barely making rent with their 500 side hustles. I’m not knocking them, it’s just part of the hustle, which I respect!

What I don’t respect is a grown man having only one towel to share. I don’t care what situation you are in, if you are a grown man, please own at least 3-4 towels. What happens when you have to wash the dirty towel? Are you going to wait until the towel is washed to take a shower?

Unfortunately, the dick was so good and I was the one who had to use the wet towel. After a SWEATY NASTY SEX session, I couldn’t wait to take a nice cool shower. When it was my turn to shower, I asked where my towel was. He said it was the only towel he had because the other one was dirty.

I ended up having to dry myself with a wet towel he used to dry his 5’10 body off. If only the session ended with us knocking out and me racing to the shower first in the morning. URGH!

LESSON: At the time, I thought it was okay since he wasn’t my boyfriend. I had no intentions of having a long term relationship with him, but NO. I no longer will do this for anyone. If you don’t have a towel for me especially if you knew I was coming over, it’s done. I don’t care how good the dick is, I’m too grown to be using wet towels. I’ll wait until you find time to wash your towels for me to come over.

I slept on an Air Mattress for the Dick

When hooking up with someone, sometimes the reason for it can be more than one. In this case, it was for dick and a place to sleep. No shame! I lived far and if I was going to sleep with someone it was going to be with someone familiar. This might have been my ultimate low when I found myself in the middle of the night on the floor because the air mattress had deflated on my side. 1. I was sleeping on an air mattress. Again, a grown man. I have much higher standards now and will only sleep with someone who has a minimum of a Queen size bed and has a bed frame. 2. There was a hole in the air mattress. This was clearly not new news for him since this is what he sleeps on. I wish I was warned before this happened or at least be told to sleep on the side that didn’t have the hole in it! I can’t believe I slept on a deflated air mattress. The dick wasn’t even that good!

LESSON: It’s not worth sleeping on an air mattress. Save your money to get you LYFTS back home.

I drove miles for the Dick

When I had my own car, I was driving everywhere and that included going back and forth for dick even if that meant driving miles for it. I had this one fuck buddy who lived about 40 minutes away driving and almost 2 hrs to get there with public transportation. This dick was so good that I was using up m savings just to see him.

LESSON: Don’t spend all your money on someone who wants to see you. Ask them to contribute especially if you’re the one making the trip. Also, if he’s your dealer and you’re fucking him and you’re still not getting a discount, shieeettttt leave his ASS NOW!!

I’m a HOE advocate which means I support women who sleep with people for pleasure.

They don’t necessarily need to be in a relationship as long as there’s consent and it was their choice from the beginning. We shouldn’t be shamed for something men have been doing this entire time. Live your life the way you want to. Just remember what you are worth and never let anyone take that away from you no matter how good the dick is!

What was the most you’ve done for the Dick? Comment below

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How to Make your Man feel Attractive

Feeling sexy before, during and after sex is a must if you want to get full pleasure from any sex act you’re doing. In a partnership, it’s not enough that we feel sexy on our own. I believe when everyone in the relationship feels sexy, the sexier the sex will be.

Often when we think of sexy in the bedroom, we think of women. We put on lingerie to accentuate our bodies, we put on makeup to accentuate our face, man, we’ll even get a whole haircut to feel sexy. In other words, we put in the effort to look sexy while it feels like men just show up. Whether it’s toxic masculinity or not enough men speaking up about it, men do want to feel sexy and attractive, too.

If you’ve ever been on a team or if you’ve ever been cheered on before, you know the cheers make you perform better. You start to believe in yourself and then you go above and beyond to prove that you can do it. This is the same in a relationship. When we uplift each other in a relationship, the relationship gets stronger. Instead of acting like it’s all about one person, we’re now acting like a team.

It’s not easy for men to be vulnerable with us. It takes a lot of courage from them. We don’t even see men being the main focus in porn. I hope to see more porn like this to show that men can be sexy too! The only porn I have seen done that is “Seehimfuck.” Check it out if you want to see something different.

If we begin to make our man feel as sexy as they make us, it can open the doors for him to be more vulnerable, curious and be their truest sexiest self with us. They might even let us lick their booty hole! Let the fun begin!

On a daily, we should be making an effort to making our man feel as sexy as they make us. We should be uplifting each other. Whether it’s in bed, when we’re out for lunch, or if they’re jerking off. If you’re looking to have a stronger and healthier intimate relationship with your partner, start here.

How to Make your Man feel Sexy

– Don’t be upset when other women are checking your man out

Often we’ll see our man get checked out by other women and be upset. Instead of feeling jealousy, feel proud people are checking him out. You’re standing next to a beautiful person and it’s normal for people to look at beautiful people. I don’t know about you but I rather have a partner people check out vs no one checking them out.

– Turn their insecurities around

When we get into a relationship, it’s more than likely they’ve done something with their previous partner that they were shamed for. It could be for watching porn, showing off too much skin, or not being able to be themselves. Instead of shaming them, turn their insecurities to positives. Embrace that part of them. Let them know that you love them no matter what they’re into.

– Tell them how much they turn you on at random moments

Doesn’t matter where you are, tell them how much they turn you on at the most random moments. It could be as soon as they walk through the door, when they’re taking a shower, when they’re taking a shit. The more random the moment, the more sweeter it will be!

-Touch/grab your favorite body part of theirs

While you guys are chilling, try caressing his chest or rub his dick while you tell him that it’s your favorite body part of his. He’ll be sure to always come out confidently the next time he shows that part of himself.

– Look at him with those sexy eyes

Sometimes silence does speak louder than words. Staring at your mans eyes while thinking about all of the things you want to do to him can even be sexier than saying it. Randomly stare and admire him.

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Women Should Start Expecting Orgasms when they Have Sex

Have you ever wondered how easily it is for men to orgasm compared to you? It seems like all men need is penetration to orgasm and they’re good. It’s more complicated for us women.

We need scenery, we need vibes, we need comfort.

In other words, we need to be in the right mindset. If our mind is wandering, it can take us from a couple of minutes to hours to orgasm or sometimes we don’t even orgasm at all.

This is an Orgasm gap. An Orgasm gap is the discrepancy in orgasms between couples. A 2017 study from the Archives of Sexual Behavior studied over 52,500 adult Americans. What they found is crazy but not surprising. They found that 95% of men said they usually or always climaxed while only 65% of women said they usually or always climaxed. That sounds like a gaped asshole to me.

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There are many reason to why we have this orgasm gap. One of the reasons is what I mentioned above. We need to be in the right mindset to have an orgasm. Have you ever wondered why we’re so turned on one moment then as soon as we think about doing our laundry even for just a second, we’re totally not into it anymore? If this happens to you, this is normal. Unfortunately, once we get distracted, it’s hard for some of us to get back into it.

Another reason for the orgasm gap is because we are not familiar with our bodies.

According to a study from YouGov, there is a lack of knowledge about the female anatomy from both men and women. While both genders were able to identify where the clitoris was, it was a different story for when they had to identify the vulva, vagina, and the labia. How can we know what makes us orgasm if we don’t know what feels good to us? This is why it’s so important that women masturbate and get to know their bodies. If we confidently know what feels good to us, it’ll be easier for us navigate our partner around our body.

Last but not least, the orgasm gap is still prevalent because while some of us women will roll over to grab our vibrators to make sure we orgasm, there are many of us who won’t. In fact, because many women are not orgasming during sex they are expecting every sexual encounter or session with their partner to be the same, ORGASM-LESS!

A study at Rutgers not only proves that there is an Orgasm gap between heterosexual men and women, but found out that because women know there is this gap, they “put less emphasis on the importance of orgasm for their sexual satisfaction compared to men “.

“Our expectations are shaped by our experiences, so when women orgasm less, they will desire and expect to orgasm less,” said Grace Wetzel, a Rutgers social psychology doctoral student who advocates for orgasm equity to her 10,000 followers onsocial media. “If women do lower their expectations in this way, the more orgasm inequality may perpetuate in relationships.”

Don’t let the orgasm gap fool you into thinking achieving an orgasm is impossible. It just means we need to get to know our bodies more and start expecting to orgasm every time we have sex. Not sometimes, but all the time. We need to acknowledge the importance of our pleasure and the empowerment we get from it.

Forget the mindset where you expect to not orgasm because you don’t think it’s possible or you think you have to lay there and “take it. Just like you can change a negative thought to a positive one, you can tell yourself that you deserve to have an orgasm every time!

As women, we’re programmed to cater to our partners and worry about their feelings. There’s nothing wrong with that as long as you’re coming too. It’s time to start thinking about yourself.

– Next time it takes you a while to orgasm, have a talk with your partner about being more patient if you feel some type of pressure.

– Having trouble orgasming can be linked to not knowing your body enough. Try to make more time to masturbate to figure out what feels good for you. You can even ask your partner to join you if you want to make this an exploring session.

– Some people may not be comfortable using their hands to masturbate. Head over to your local sex shop and ask what toys will work for you.

Remember, part of being able to change the world is by owning every part of yourself, that includes your erotic.Try taking your pleasure power back by telling yourself that you are going to orgasm today no matter what. Watch how many orgasm come afterwards.

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